Feelings and Needs chart A chart that helps a parent identify potential feelings and needs that may be driving certain behaviours
Basic needs checklist for parents. Happy, Confident, Co-Operative children are
children who ……
Expressing boundaries assertively, yet non-aggressively Saying "no", setting limits, dealing with aggression
Empathy - Read about the importance and the benefits of increasing your expression of empathy for your child and some useful tips on developing more empathic communication, especially for those who didn't see much of it modelled as children.
Sibling Rivalry, which includes:
* The problem solving approach
* Responding to derogatory language
* Should I make my child say "sorry"?
* The benefits of mediating your children's conflicts
The peaceful parenting approach to kid's conflicts
How to maintain and model healthy boundaries? Transforming anger?
Creating Emotional_safety for your child and how to avoid shutting your child down
Resolving the conflicts that erupt in the family:
which includes the following:
How can I resolve conflicts in a healthy way that helps my child learn?
Bully Proof your kids:
If I use punishments what am I teaching my child?
ANGER How can I help them deal with their anger? What about my anger?
Why do children manipulate, bribe and threaten?
Developing an intention to resolve the problem at a deeper level.
Letting them tell their side of the story
What should I do when we're both angry and I feel like shouting?
I feel rejected by my child How can I help if he doesn't want me?
Should a parent say sorry even if the child started the conflict?
Should we insist that our child apologize?
The importance of warm physical contact in resolving conflict.
When a child wants to do something they're not allowed,?
What about when my child hurts another child? Why do children tell lies? Strong Willed Children: What to do when there's a battle of Wills?
What do children need when they are angry, frustrated and sulking?
Setting Limits: How can we help children accept the limits we set?
Quality time with your child Spending quality one on one time with your child is usually the medicine that’s needed when things become chaotic or out of balance in the family.
Babies and children can heal through their cries Babies and children have an innate natural ability to bring themselves back to balance after upsets, frustrations, frights, exhaustion or over stimulation - one way that they achieve this re-balancing is through crying!
Why do most parents struggle to cope with their child's cries? Parents have tended to see the crying as the problem itself rather than the child's way of communicating their valid needs.
Active listening improves teacher child relationships Active listening helps to reduce conflict, avoid or clear up misunderstandings, empower a child’s confidence and self-esteem and fosters cooperation.
Go Away! You don't care! What to do when your child rejects you? When your child pushes you away, won’t let you hold them or even come near them, they still need to know that they’re emotionally held and cared for.
How can we teach our Children to be Compassionate? Responding compassionately to your child's hurts, upsets, anger and disappointments will not only give them what they need to own and work through their problems, it will also set them up to be empathic and compassionate people.
Why do children use rude language? by Patty Wipfler
Rewards and Praise: The Poisoned Carrot by Robin Grille, author of "Parenting for the Peaceful World" and "Heart to Heart Parenting" on the subject of Praise and Rewards, the hidden pitfalls.
Australian Association for Infant Mental Health (AAIMH) Paper stating their concerns in relation to controlled crying (also known as sleep training).
"The Secret Life of the Unborn Child" by Thomas Verny, M.D. with John Kelly. This is an excerpt from the book - amazing collection of both scientific research relating to the baby in utero as well as recalled memories of people during hypnosis and regression. For an excerpt from the book.
Joseph Chilton Pearce is an expert in the development of intelligence. He has developed a theory along these lines which he has written about in five different books, including The Crack in the Cosmic Egg, Magical Child, and Magical Child Matures,
Therapeutic Drumming. Rhythm takes us back into rhythm with ourselves, with nature, with our surroundings. Children respond particularly well to rhythm.
If you need support in your journey of adopting peaceful parenting strategies in your family, contact Genevieve about some one on one parent coaching or holistic counselling or both combined.
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